Self Confidence and a Self-Assessment questionnaire

Self-confidence is a fundamental characteristic of your personality which you will have in varying degrees. You can be self-confident in one area and not in another depending on your experiences, your environment, and your relationships.

The more you know and understand yourself the more you can do with what you have and what you desire to be.

Confidence comes from the Latin word Fidere which means to trust, therefore having self-confidence means you have trust in yourself.

Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well and have a positive view of yourself.

Knowing more and understanding more allows you to know what area to develop (if you choose to)  sometimes you can be faced with what appears to be an avalanche of areas to work on – especially if you compare yourself to others!

It will never work to attempt to do everything in one go (believe me I tried) it can cause confusion and chaos and a potential loss of identity, which serves no one and especially you.

You need self-confidence but what you need is true self-confidence not the deluded type where individuals think they are good, right, great, when in reality they aren’t and it does happen.

‘Self-confidence is one thing and others having confidence in you is another’

Julie Hogbin

Answer the following questions with a true or false response and see what sort of result you achieve

All of the following statements can be reversed in behaviours if they need to be – it is the same with everything – if what you are doing is ultimately not serving you and  you do not like the results you achieve – change. As somebody famous said you are not a tree!

1. I hesitate to voice my opinion
2. I always think about what I should have said after the event.
3. I rarely feel comfortable with strangers
4. I feel that people talk about me behind my
5. I often worry
6. I am easily
7. I feel that people misjudge
8. I do things better than most
9. I am attractive to the opposite
10. I rely on status symbols (car, club ) & who I am seen with etc to give me confidence.
11. I make a point of quickly letting strangers know of my achievements & qualifications
12. I am afraid of making a fool of
13. Many people do not like me very
14. I seldom receive encouragement from
15. I am more creative than most people I know
16. I have more drive and energy than most people I know
17. I am less attractive than most other people I
18. I am afraid to make a speech in front of
19. In general people let me
20. I strongly resent
21. I would like more approval from
22. I am over-modest.
23. Most people do not understand
24. I am happy with the way I
25. I doubt the genuineness of compliments which I
26. In most situations I do not do myself justice
27. I am not good enough for my
28. I am seldom sure that I have made the right
29. I envy the success of
30. There are many things about myself which I would like to
31. I am satisfied with my achievements in
32. My plans are more likely to fail than
33. I often worry about the future
34. I wonder whether all my thoughts are normal
35. People do not take an interest in

‘It is not what you know that counts it is what you do with what you know that counts’

Julie Hogbin