What’s Your Reason for Being? Have you ever questioned why you are doing the things you do? Whether it’s in your career, relationships, or day-to-day grind, we all hit those moments where we question our direction. That’s where Ikigai, a powerful Japanese concept, comes in. Pronounced “ee-kee-guy,” it translates to “life’s worth” or “life’s value.” It’s a reminder that your life is more than just a to-do list, it’s about finding joy, meaning, and purpose. If you’re feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or out of alignment, understanding Ikigai can help you create a more intentional and rewarding life. So, let’s dive in and uncover how this philosophy can inspire your journey toward a life worth living. Why Ikigai Matters in a Busy World In today’s rapidly changing world, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Between juggling work, family, and personal aspirations, finding purpose often takes a backseat. That’s where Ikigai shines. It’s a way to align what you love, what you’re good at, what you can be paid for, and what the world needs. Think of it as your personal compass, pointing you toward fulfilment. When you find your Ikigai, you wake up with excitement and go to bed with gratitude. Even if you’re not living in perfect alignment yet, simply being aware of this concept can change your perspective and help you make intentional decisions. A Cultural Insight: Lessons from Japan My journey with Ikigai began during a life-changing tour of Japan. While I was walking through its bustling streets, I was struck by the country’s unique harmony between tradition and modernity. You’ll find cutting-edge technology alongside ancient practices like bonsai pruning, a skill passed down for centuries. In Japan, I visited temples rebuilt in the exact manner of their ancient originals, preserving knowledge while embracing innovation. I think to myself that that balance is the essence of Ikigai: honouring your past while staying adaptable for the future. It’s no wonder Japan has the oldest population and have the highest number of businesses that is over 1,000 years old. This philosophy of purpose is deeply woven into their culture, and it’s something we in the Western world can learn from and integrate into our own lives. The Four Pillars of Ikigai In Western culture’s understanding, Ikigai emerges where four key elements converge: What You Love Pertains to your passions and joys. What You’re Good At Includes your skills and strengths. What You Can Be Paid For Refers to your profession or business. What the World Needs Your mission or impact on society. When these four areas overlap, you’ll find the sweet spot that brings you purpose, happiness, and balance. But here’s the thing, contrary to what some people say, you don’t have to live in perfect alignment all the time. It’s OK Not to Have One Singular Purpose Let me challenge a myth: You don’t have to have one singular, all-consuming purpose in life. It’s perfectly fine to pursue multiple passions or have a job that funds your true purpose. For example, your 9-to-5 might not light you up, but it provides financial stability so you can support a charity, explore creative hobbies, or travel. You’re still living your Ikigai because every piece of the puzzle contributes to your overall life value. The weight of trying to discover your life’s calling can feel crushing. However, you must focus on what feels good now. Purpose isn’t static. It evolves as you do. The key is intentionality: knowing what matters to you and taking steps to honour it, even if it’s just one small action at a time. Practical Ways to Live Your Ikigai Here’s how you can start integrating Ikigai into your life today: Reflect on Your Joys Take 10 minutes to jot down what brings you happiness. It could be something simple, like listening to birdsong or travelling to new places. These are clues to your Ikigai. Create a Plan Align your passions with your goals. For instance, if you dream of travelling, build a budget and timeline to make it happen. Embrace Small Steps You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Start by carving out time for the things that matter most, even if it’s just 15 minutes a day. Balance Work and Passion If your current job isn’t your dream, find ways it can support your passions. Perhaps it funds a side hustle or gives you the freedom to volunteer. Stay Adaptable Remember, your Ikigai will change as you grow. What matters today might look different a year from now, and that’s OK. How Ikigai Can Change Your Life Understanding Ikigai isn’t just a feel-good concept. It’s a tool for transformation. When you live with purpose: You wake up energised, even on tough days. You make decisions with clarity and confidence. You feel connected to something greater than yourself. In short, you stop living on autopilot and start designing a life that feels truly meaningful. Take the First Step Towards Your Ikigai What would your life look like if you aligned with your Ikigai? Imagine waking up with a sense of direction, knowing you’re contributing to something that matters. The journey starts with self-awareness and small, intentional changes. I’m here to help you uncover your unique purpose and create a life that aligns with your values. Whether it’s through my Conscious Leadership Podcast, social media content, or personalised mentoring, let’s work together to unlock your potential. Connect with Me Connect with me today on LinkedIn, Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook for deeper insights into living a purposeful life. Final Thoughts on Ikigai Purpose isn’t something you find once and hold onto forever, it’s a journey. So, start small, stay curious, and remember: your Ikigai is already within you. You just need to uncover it.
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You simply need to learn how to rewire your thinking. So, let’s break this down in a way that actually helps you move forward. What Exactly is Mental Plasticity? Mental plasticity (or neuroplasticity) is your brain’s natural ability to change, adapt, and reorganise itself. It’s what allows you to learn new skills, break bad habits, and think differently about life’s challenges. In simple terms, your brain is not fixed. You are not set in stone. No matter how long you’ve been doing things one way, you can change. The problem? Most people don’t know how to work with their brain’s plasticity. Instead, they fight against it—resisting change, fearing discomfort, and staying stuck in old patterns. But here’s the exciting part: once you understand mental plasticity, you can use it to your advantage. You can train your mind to be more flexible, more resilient, and more open to transformation. Why Do Some People Find Change Easier Than Others? Not everyone has the same level of mental plasticity. Some people naturally adapt to change better than others. Why? Because they’ve trained themselves to be comfortable with discomfort. People who handle change well tend to: Embrace uncertainty rather than fear it. See challenges as opportunities rather than threats. Understand that discomfort is part of growth. Keep a long-term vision in mind, rather than getting caught in short-term struggles. But here’s the good news—mental plasticity is trainable. Just like a muscle, your brain can be strengthened and rewired to make change easier and more natural. The Five Stages of Change: Where Are You Stuck? Dr. Kübler-Ross first developed the five stages of grief, but these same stages apply to any major life change, whether it’s switching careers, ending a toxic relationship, starting a business, or transforming your health. Which stage are you currently in? Denial – “I don’t need to change.” This is the stage where we tell ourselves, “Everything’s fine. I can keep doing what I’ve always done and get a different result.” Except… deep down, we know that’s not true. If you feel stuck but keep convincing yourself that “one-day” things will magically change without effort, you’re in denial. Resistance – “This is too hard.” You’ve accepted that change is necessary, but now you’re in full-on fight mode. This is where frustration, anxiety, and self-doubt creep in. The old way feels safer. The unknown feels terrifying. Many people give up at this stage because the discomfort is too much. Rock Bottom – “I don’t know what to do next.” This is the breaking point. You’ve tried, you’ve failed, and now you feel overwhelmed, helpless, or stuck. This stage is crucial because you have two choices: Give up and retreat back to old habits. Push through and create a new way forward. 4. Testing – “Maybe I can do this.” This is where things start to shift. You begin experimenting with small changes. You start building confidence in your ability to adapt. At first, it’s uncomfortable. But the more you practice, the more it becomes a second nature. Acceptance & Growth – “This is who I am now.” At this stage, change is no longer something you’re forcing. It has become part of who you are. You’ve rewired your brain. You’re living the new reality. And you’re stronger for it. This is where true transformation happens. How to Train Your Mind for Change If you’re reading this and thinking, “This all makes sense, but how do I actually do it?”, here’s where to start: Create a Clear Vision Without a vision, your mind will cling to the familiar, even if it’s unhealthy. Ask yourself: Who do I want to become? What do I need to do differently? How will my life improve when I make this change? Rewire Your Self-Talk Your words shape your reality. If you keep saying, “I can’t do this,” “I’m not good enough,” or “It’s too late for me,” you’re reinforcing old mental patterns. Instead, shift your self-talk to: “I am capable of change.” “I handle challenges with confidence.” “Every step I take is moving me forward.” Make Discomfort Your New Normal Change is always uncomfortable at first. Instead of seeing discomfort as a sign to stop, see it as proof that you’re growing. Ask yourself: “Am I willing to be uncomfortable for a while so I can be stronger in the long run?” Surround Yourself with the Right People The people you spend time with either reinforce your old patterns or encourage your growth. Who challenges you to think bigger? Who supports your vision for change? Who holds you accountable? If you don’t have the right support system, it’s time to build one. Take One Small Action Today You don’t have to change everything overnight. But you do have to start. Think about that one small action you can take today that moves you closer to your goal. Do it now so things become easier to deal with. Final Thoughts: Change Starts With You If you’re tired of feeling stuck, frustrated, or
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