‘Full of Yourself’ – is that an insult or a compliment?
A friend of mine posted yesterday that she had been accused of being ‘full of herself’ interesting I thought what is all that about I wonder
Now this person I know has made phenomenal strides in the last year with her health both mental and physical, she openly talks about being suicidal 5 years ago, she has had a T Total year, she has done incredible work with her podcast & her business. She is a mum and a wife & because she has shared her message and her journey warts and all someone informs her that she is ‘full of herself’ WOW is all I can say
AND why am I not surprised?
- ‘The Tall Poppy Syndrome’ came to mind which is where people attempt to cut down those that stand above (figuratively writing) them
- ‘The Green Eyed Monster’ is another way of referring to jealousy & can spring to action when comparisons are made & has been spoken about since Shakespeare wrote about it in Othello
- ‘Sour Grapes” when someone claims to not want something, often because they are envious of someone else who has it
- “Bitter Pill” something that is hard to accept or swallow, often because it causes feelings of jealousy or resentment & maybe you think you should have what the other person has without doing the work
- “Keeping up with the Joneses” & realising you are failing (for whatever reason) although trying to maintain the same level of material possessions or status as the neighbours or peers, often out of envy or competition or comparison
Now my final phrase on this is: “Envy eats nothing, but its own heart” which an old saying that suggests that envy consumes a person from the inside and brings them no happiness – all I can say is the person who expressed the thought ‘you are full of yourself’ is eating themselves up with comparison from the inside out
Now comparison is fine when it is a healthy comparison which spurs you on to do more, to be more, and to give more, of you to the world that supports and challenges others – we grow on that cusp of balance
Comparison is not a useful exercise when it leaves you feeling negative not only about yourself but those you are comparing yourself to!. Now I would suggest that the person who wrote the phrase felt and thought they were better than my friend by keeping quiet about their success or achievements
I can tell you wholeheartedly that is ‘faulty’ thinking
- We all need to learn to share more, it helps others to know it is possible
- We all need to learn to value ourselves more – it is our human right
- We all need to learn to admire others and applaud their success
- We all need to learn from those doing more for themselves than we are
We need to learn to celebrate and express success in all its forms and applaud others quietly or loudly in any way we can – we need to learn to get out of the negative ‘cutting others down’ and into the positive ‘raise everyone up’
Change your thinking & change your life – a new book being written on that exact subject by me RIGHT NOW
End of Rant & continue sharing my friend Ellie
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