Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it drives us to strive for excellence, creating outstanding results. On the other hand, it can pile on unnecessary pressure – for ourselves and for those around us. This is particularly relevant for women who frequently balance numerous roles and duties.
Today, let’s explore how perfectionism affects leadership, how to strike a balance between excellence and “good enough,” and how you can reclaim control over your time, energy, and peace of mind.
What Does Perfectionism Mean to You?
Perfectionism may seem like a desirable quality. After all, who wouldn’t strive to achieve their best?
But here’s the twist:
Perfectionism isn’t about being your best. It’s about feeling like you’re never good enough.
I’ve learned this lesson the hard way.
In my early years as a leader, I set my standards so high that I was constantly stressed – not just for myself but for my team.
I expected them to match my level of perfection, but the truth was, my “perfection” wasn’t even required.
It took me years to realise this:
Perfectionism doesn’t equal productivity. Excellence, done well, does.
Excellence vs. Perfectionism: What’s the Difference?
Let’s break it down.
- Excellence is about doing your best within the time, resources, and energy available.
- Perfectionism, however, demands more – even when “more” isn’t necessary or helpful.
Think about it.
How many times have you redone a task, not because it wasn’t good, but because it didn’t meet your idea of “perfect”?
A mentor once told me:
Start and get perfect later.
This simple phrase was a game-changer for me.
Sometimes, starting is all that’s needed.
Excellence grows as we learn, but perfectionism can stop us from ever starting.
How Perfectionism Affects Leadership
For women in leadership, the stakes often feel higher.
Many of us are trying to prove ourselves in a world that still underestimates our potential.
And while striving for excellence is commendable, perfectionism can leave us exhausted and isolated.
Here’s how perfectionism can impact leadership:
Personal Stress
- Constantly striving for perfection can lead to burnout.
- You may feel like you’re always falling short, even when others see your efforts as exceptional.
Team Dynamics
- If you’re leading a team, your high standards might unintentionally place undue pressure on them.
- They may feel overwhelmed or even demotivated if they can’t keep up.
Missed Opportunities
- Perfectionism can make us hesitant to take risks or delegate tasks, limiting our growth and innovation.
I experienced this first-hand when I expected my team to match my perfectionist standards.
While I thought I was pushing them to be better, I was actually causing frustration and decreasing morale.
It was a tough but valuable lesson:
Your perfectionism isn’t everyone’s standard – and it doesn’t need to be.
The Power of “Good Enough”
Here’s where the concept of “good enough” comes in – and it’s not as bad as it sounds!
“Good enough” doesn’t mean settling for mediocrity. It means recognising the point at which additional effort won’t add value.
It’s about focusing on what truly matters.
For example:
- In your work life, “good enough” might mean completing a report that meets the brief rather than spending hours making it look perfect.
- In your personal life, it might mean letting go of the need to have a spotless home when you’re already stretched thin.
When we embrace “good enough,” we create space for what’s truly important – whether it’s innovation, connection, or simply rest.
Practical Tips to Manage Perfectionism
If you’re nodding along, thinking, “This is me,” here are a few ways to manage perfectionism and lead with balance:
Set Clear Standards
- Define what’s acceptable versus what’s excellent.
- For leaders, this is crucial for managing expectations – for yourself and your team.
Prioritise Tasks
- Not everything needs your full attention.
- Focus on what’s important and will make the biggest impact.
Start First, Perfect Later
- Give yourself permission to begin without everything being flawless.
- Progress often brings clarity.
Ask for Feedback
- Sometimes, an outside perspective helps you see when something is already “good enough.”
Practise Self-Compassion
- Remember, you’re only human.
- Perfection isn’t sustainable – but your well-being is.
Why This Matters to Women
As women, we often carry the weight of societal expectations, making us feel like we need to do more to prove our worth.
But here’s the thing – and we’ve heard it before:
You are enough, just as you are.
By letting go of perfectionism, we free ourselves to lead with authenticity, lead with love, to focus on what matters most, and to inspire others with our example.
Whether you’re managing a team, running a household, or building your own business, embracing excellence – rather than perfection – can be transformative.
Let’s Talk About Your Journey
If this resonates with you, let’s continue the conversation.
I’m passionate about helping women step into their power, not through perfectionism, but through conscious leadership and intentional action.
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Remember, leadership isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present, proactive, and purposeful. Let’s create magic together!
Final Thought: Progress Over Perfection
Perfectionism might feel like a strength, but it can also hold us back.
Embrace the power of “good enough,” and you’ll be amazed at how much more you can achieve – with less stress.
